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Description: Optimize Yourself Mentally - My Own Playlist: youtube.com/watch?v=ht_yijZ4T5I&list=PLXN0XO_WBISl0yW6Peqme4YW6mMLvi3L7 How to win friends and influence people on Amazon: amzn.to/2yA5Hvf Website: primedlifestyle.com Instagram: Primed You will undoubtedly have arguments with people throughout your life and in most cases you’ll end up being more frustrated than before without having resolved anything, but rather made things worse. However there are ways to win arguments without arousing resentment or anger from the other person while getting your points across. So in this video I will show you how you can win any argument, even against a girl. The first and best lesson when it comes to arguments comes from good ol Dale Carnegie in how to win friends and influence people. He says “there’s only one way to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it” You might be dead right with what you say as you poke holes in whoever you argue with and your arguments might be flawless. But when it comes to changing the other person's mind, you’re only giving yourself a disadvantage. You’re basically trying to convince someone of your way of thinking by hurting what is of most importance to them - their pride. Even if you’re arguments are perfectly logical, they will not be able to reflect on them rationally simply because you’ve hurt their feelings. They will see right through your arguments and act straight out of emotions and your logical arguments will have no effect. They are going to say forget you and forget logics, and then they are going to justify themselves even though they might be dead wrong. There is never someone's intention to be wrong, and in their own minds what they say makes perfect sense. This is why you never bluntly just say “you’re wrong”. It’s a direct hit at their intelligence, pride, judgement and self-respect. More harm than good will come out from this statement and the other person will only defend their own way thinking to an even greater extent. And knowing that you’re dealing with a person that will argue from an emotional standpoint rather than a logical one will be used to your advantage when entering an argument. So the first thing you should do when entering an argument is to distrust your first instincts. Our first natural reaction when we disagree with someone is to be defensive. Instead keep calm and control your temper. Then you want to listen. Don’t say anything but listen, and do so genuinely and attentively while keeping yourself from interrupting. Try to build bridges of understanding rather than walls and barriers of misunderstanding. Once you’ve let the other person speak adress what you agree on. Let them know that you value their opinion and that you share many of their thoughts as well. Be honest and look for areas where you can admit errors and be sure to let them know that. You will never get into trouble by admitting that you actually might be wrong. This will stop the other person from arguing and instead inspire them to be as fair and just as you are, and it will disarm their defensiveness. So by openly admitting your mistakes, people will lower their guard and you’re at common ground. They and are now much more receptive for your logical arguments. You haven’t hurt their pride or dented their judgement, but instead made them feel understood and you’ve considered their expressions thoroughly. Now before you express your own opinions about the argument, start of with this very powerful sentence. “Look, I thought otherwise but I might be wrong here, which I frequently am. And if I’m wrong I want you to correct me. So let’s examine the facts.” Saying this will completely take away their intentions of proving you wrong. Now you can calmly express your own opinions and the other person are now willing to listen to what you’ve got to say. This way of entering an argument will allow you to convince the other person of your way of thinking without arousing any anger or resentment. Arguments often start simply because they feel that you don’t value them. The feeling of being important is one of the deepest urges humans have so give them that feeling, and try to honestly let them know that you understand them. It’s a win win situation and you can apply this way of arguing even against a girl. Music: Life of Riley by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/) Source: incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1400054 Artist: incompetech.com