Channel: Amy North

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Description: CoachNorth.com -- Dealing With Relationship Insecurity Relationships are supposed to make us feel happy, supported, and at peace. So why does being in your relationship feel so nerve-wracking and scary? The answer is relationship insecurity. In this video we’re going to explore the different ways relationship insecurity takes shape and how you can deal with it once and for all so your relationship can be a source of happiness, not anxiety. Hi, I’m relationship coach Amy North. For those of you new to my channel, welcome. I offer simple tips that are backed up by science to help you plus up your love life. If that sounds like something you can use, hit that subscribe button right now. So what exactly is relationship insecurity and where does it come from? Relationship security is the sense of unease in your relationship that can either stem from specific problems you’re having in your relationship, your own personal insecurities, or the negative behaviour of your partner. We’ll talk about what exactly that means in just a moment but first, I’m going to make some statements. See if any of these sound familiar: Why would someone like him love someone like me? I know he’s going to leave me He didn’t answer the phone. He’s probably ignoring me When he goes out with his friends, I worry that he’s cheating on me What is he keeping secret? This is going so well. I know it’s all going to come to an end. If you find thoughts like this are interfering with your happiness and your relationship, then you’re suffering from relationship insecurity. But you can get past it. First, we need to identify the source of your relationship insecurities. Are the insecurities coming from your relationship, your partner, or your past? Our past is probably the most common source of relationship insecurities. Let me give you an example. Say you’ve been cheated on in a past relationship. Now when your new boyfriend mentions a female friend at work, you automatically get defensive, lash out, or melt down into a puddle of fear and hurt feelings. Another example: your father left your family when you were five years old. Now your boyfriend tells you that he has to go away on a business trip for a couple weeks. This sets off alarm bells in your head and you’re terrified, against all reason, that he’s never coming back. These are common sources of relationship insecurity as they sensitize us to a particular situation, and since it’s all happening inside our head, it’s a complete mystery to our partner. We’ll talk in a moment about how to overcome this type of insecurity but first we need to cover insecurities that come from your partner’s behaviour. Insecurities that come directly from your partner’s behaviour can be extremely destructive to your self confidence. Luckily, they’re the easiest to overcome. You just have to leave your partner. I know, I know, it may sound extreme and luckily it’s not the first and only option you have, but be glad that it’s a possibility if things ever do get out of control. Remember that your partner is supposed to make you happy, not miserable. If they’re using your insecurity to manipulate and control you then this relationship can only be described as toxic and destructive. *** More from Amy North: *** How to Get A Man: coachnorth.com LoveLearnings: lovelearnings.com Facebook: facebook.com/amynorthdating