Channel: YesReneau

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Description: that frog was social distancing p.s. I didn't do a great job of connecting all my ideas in this video. I'll put some more thoughts here, just so it makes sense. I think "coping" is oftentimes a fancy way of saying that people are suppressing their feelings. I don't think certain coping mechanisms (e.g. working to distract self) are the solution to feeling bad, but I do think sometimes they can be included in the solution (if you know how they fit into the greater scheme of what you're working toward). I think some people don't seek to go deeper than their coping mechanisms because they aren't externally incentivized to (in fact, sometimes they are incentivized to just keep doing more of their coping mechanism... so many people probably see their coping mechanism as a full solution... when it's not). I think people are starting to wake up now to the fact that the coping mechanisms they've been using to get them through either 1) covid, or 2) life in general, are only smoke and mirrors. Why is this? Well, I think it's because they are clearly seeing right now how giant life events can shake up EVERYTHING and call into question the very things they always thought were guaranteed (e.g. their job, their physical health, their home, their loved ones, etc.). Newsflash, yo: nothing in life is certain. We are guaranteed nothing. Nothing. This is a painful pill to swallow, and the world has had it shoved down its esophagus in the last several months. That's why it hurts; it hurts because we've been trained to believe a lie (i.e. that there is such a thing as certainty), and now we're seeing it for the myth it is (and we're getting that message in a BIG dose). (This video was made partially to say: I see you, I feel you, it's tough to go through these things... you're allowed to hurt right now.) Lucky for us, though, this pill might help us improve a little from the sickness that is a fair amount of the Western mentality. We don't have all our values wrong, but we do have some wrong. Maybe this will help us as a society/nation/world/species to become a little better adjusted and get a little closer to "truth". I think when I was saying "this time is helping me figure out what I want", what I really meant to say was "this time is helping me figure out what I want to believe... and figure out how to internalize it". I no longer believe in the smoke and mirrors that are our shiny cars, big houses, many accolades, or many of the things that working mindlessly can help one attain... instead, I believe in human growth, connection, and experience (and sometimes all the external fancy stuff can be involved in that). I'm taking this time to figure out how not only to believe that message theoretically, but I'm also learning how to feel it emotionally. This stuff takes time. Haha but alas, no eureka moment in this video! Will have to wait until I'm hashtag self-actualized. (Dang, maybe one day I'll be able to get through a video without turning it into a GIANT lesson, lol.) Help keep the videos coming - Patreon: patreon.com/yesreneau Stalk me - Insta: @yesreneau