Channel: Amy North

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Description: CoachNorth.com -- Never Had A Boyfriend? You Need To Hear This... Have you never had a boyfriend? Does it feel like you’ve pulled the short straw when it comes to love? I’m going to tell you exactly WHY you’re chronically single and what you need to do to improve your love life right now, regardless of your age, looks or station in life. Hi, I’m Amy North, author of the Devotion System. I’ve helped so many women find the love life they want. But what if you have little to no experience with men? Well the truth is, I can help you most of all. In fact, this is one of the easier romantic problems to solve. Keep watching and I’ll explain. First off, you need to know that the problem isn’t that you’re not desirable to men or that you’re incapable of finding love. The problem is entirely about your mindset. Oftentimes when women come to me with this problem, they feel lost and without hope. They feel like they’re unloveable and that no man ever wants them. These women say that if they ever do connect with a guy then they either get too nervous, drive him away somehow, or he turns out to be just using them for sex. Any of this sound familiar? Answer me this, if you met a man who talked this way would you want to be with him? Of course not. So how can we expect men to want us when we’re putting out such negative energy? Even if you’re keeping this stuff to yourself, if you feel this way then it’s bound to show up subconsciously in the way you talk and act. This unconscious bias against yourself is a bigger barrier to your happiness than anything else. I’ll tell you some facts and ideas that will help you reframe how you look at your singleness and put you on a path towards self acceptance and love. First off, I mentioned that many of my clients come to me with this exact problem. You know how I can tell these women apart from women who are happily in relationships or even married? The truth is… I can’t. I’ve been doing this for a long time and the truth is that there isn’t a huge difference between women who get boyfriends and those who don’t. This is because love, like in all things, largely comes down to chance. This can be a scary thing to accept but when you realize how much of life is random and unknowable, you’ll start to realize that the fact that you haven’t had a boyfriend yet isn’t some scarlet letter, it’s just how things happened to shake out. This means that you’re as likely to find love next as anyone else. In fact, you’re overdue for it. Another reason that your love life is lacking is simply because you’re more selective than other women. While many say this holds you back, it can actually be an indicator of greater romantic satisfaction in the long term. Women who are more picky tend to have more successful, long-lasting relationships. This is because they’re not willing to date just any man who comes along. They want a strong connection, similar values, and a compatible lifestyle. Don’t lower your standards to fulfill some arbitrary social milestone. There are plenty of people who say they had their first girlfriend or boyfriend in the second grade. Was that a relationship worth having and did it really make any difference to their life or who they are today? Probably not. So don’t let it get you down. Being selective is a sign of self respect. You go girl. Another factor at play is circumstance. Similar to being single by random chance, you’re most likely a victim of circumstance. One of my first clients ever was named Mary. Mary was a beautiful, intelligent woman in her mid thirties. You know those people you meet who instantly charm you and make you feel like you’re old friends? That was Mary. So when she told me that not only had she never been on a date, she’d never even been kissed, I was shocked. Mary was deeply embarrassed by her lack of experience. When I got to know her a little more, I started to understand why it hadn’t happened for her just yet. Mary grew up in a small town in the prairies. She went to school in a one room schoolhouse with the same ten classmates from kindergarten to graduation. Then Mary went to nursing school for a semester but had to return home to take care of her aging parents. From then on, Mary remained in her small town and largely kept close to her family, as circumstances required. She maintained a pretty small social circle and kept to her routine. Working at the local library and looking after her family took up most of her time. While Mary was happy with her life, she always felt like something was missing. She wanted to find love but she simply had no idea how to go about it. As time passed it seemed to get more and more difficult to get a boyfriend and also more and m *** More from Amy North: *** How to Get A Man: coachnorth.com LoveLearnings: lovelearnings.com Facebook: facebook.com/amynorthdating