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Description: KateSpring.com/Free --- How To Build Rapport with Women Hey there! My name is Kate Spring and I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. As the title of this video suggests, we’re going to talk about some ways that you can build rapport with a woman. Rapport is an essential part of human interaction. It’s all about making a connection. If you’ve watched any of my other videos, you might have heard me talk about the importance of communication and that 93% of communication is non-verbal and only 7% of communication is verbal, which means that only 7% of the time that we spend conversing with people is affected by our words. Rapport is a form of communication. It’s communicating in such a way where the purpose is to build closeness. So here we’re not so focused on WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. Before we get any further, be sure to subscribe to my channel by ringing the bell below and be sure to leave all of your questions in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can. There are three ways that you can effectively build rapport through matching and mirroring. Those three things are to mirror and match: your posture, rhythm of breath, and tone. 1. Posture: What is your communication partner doing with her hands? Is she slouching or seated upright? Is she leaning in to you or leaning away from you? If she’s slouching, you probably shouldn’t sit completely erect. If she’s leaning in to you, then lean in to her, this is a sign of interest and comfort. Take note of a woman’s posture and gestures, and then match hers. I mean, use discretion here with all of this. If she runs her hands through her hair, don’t immediately do that same thing, you don’t want her to know that you’re miming her. Your goal is to synchronize your gestures so that a woman will feel like you are bonded. We’re attracted to people that are similar to us. 2. Rhythm of Breath: One of the most effective ways to build rapport with a woman is to harmonize your breath. Match her breathing. The purpose of doing this is to bond you. This can also be the tempo and volume at which your communication partner speaks. If she is speaking rather slowly and comfortably, it wouldn’t make sense for you to talk rapidly. Take note of how she’s breathing. Is she taking deep breaths from her diaphragm or is she taking short breaths from her chest. Whichever one she is doing, take note and try to adopt her way of breathing into your own. 3. Tone/ energy: Our last step is to match the tone and energy level of your speaker. The tone is the general character or attitude of a situation. If the girl that you’re talking to is soft spoken, it would make sense for you to match her tone and not over power her with a loud rambunctious one. This is subtle and it makes the other person feel comfortable and like they’re being understood. This is the most effective way to build rapport. It’s never really what you say, but it’s how you say it. If you say something horrendous, but do so in a joking or sarcastic tone, that changes the entire meaning of the message. However, if you say something horrendous with conviction, then the message is horrendous. For example, “I hate you!” “I hate you..”;) Tone is everything, so practice matching peoples tone and pace in your day to day conversations. That way, when you are trying to build rapport with a girl that you like, it will be much easier because you’ve had practice. Also, if your communication partner is introverted, it would not help for you to act as an extrovert. You want to make her feel comfortable by showing her that you and her are similar. And here the best way to do so is to highlight your similarities in your communication practices. Alright, you guys, once you manage to introduce the PRT Rapport Building System into your dating tool box, you’re well on your way to building a deep and lasting rapport with any woman that you want. This is how you build connections and ultimately attraction by creating a sense of similarity between the two of you and trust. That’s all I have for you today, YouTube! Thanks for tuning in and I’ll see you in my next video. ---For more tips on How to GET the Girl: katespring.com/FREE