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Description: The narcissist is incapable of attachment, bonding, and positive emotionality He is possessive of his women only in two situations: GRANDIOSITY/UNIQUENESS 1. When he is acquiring a woman and she chooses another man over him for sex only or for more, thus disrupting the process of co-idealization; UTILITARIAN/INSTRUMENTAL/TRANSACTIONAL 2. When in a shared fantasy and he risks losing the 3 Ss that she provides him with (sex, services, narcissistic or sadistic supply). Similarly, he is interested in sex only in two situations: GRANDIOSITY/UNIQUENESS 1. As a somatic "player" in short term conquests (but not in casual sex with promiscuous non-discriminating women and not with the conquered women); UTILITARIAN/TRANSACTIONAL/INSTRUMENTAL 2. As a cerebral in the lovebombing phase which precedes the shared fantasy (but not later). Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3